Long time, no type. I was reminded that I hadn't added any new content during the time my hubby was out of work, so here we are at last.
That actually brings me to the topic of the moment - staying balanced through life's wars. If you're like I am, you begin to neglect healing activities such as blogging, prayer, working out, checking in with accountability partners, and so forth to take care of people you love when they need support.
I honestly don't remember the last time I stepped foot in my gym, but it was sometime right around the big layoff. My weight loss partner thinks I've died, and I've obviously been neglecting this blog. I have managed to stick with my spiritual journal, but I'm a wreck physically. So, why do we, as moms and wives, do that?
The knee-jerk answer is that we rush to rescue. Part of our DNA (and our spiritual hearts as women) instructs us to nurture, protect and comfort. When the major breadwinner gets a pink slip, maybe we type resumes and prop up their egos. If a son or daughter is failing a class, we help find tutors and listen to them vent.
And all that's okay. What's screwy is letting ourselves fall into disrepair as we glue everyone else back together. Bear with me as I offer an illustration. In Shorin Ryu karate, the practitioner "plants" herself in wide, deep stances so that, no matter now hard an opponent kicks or punches, she's well-centered.
Even if she's defending someone else from an assault, she never forgets to plant herself into those deep, "rooted" stances. She remains like a deeply rooted tree throughout the assault, fending off blows until the fight's over.
Sounds pretty transferable to real life, doesn't it? Why can't we remember to hold our stance when the wars come? Nope, we leap out into space, completely abandoning the habits that keep us healthy, in defense of the people we love. How silly is that?
So, I'm challenging you and myself at the same time. Figure out how to maintain your firm stance when the assault comes. Stick to the things you know will keep you strong, and I'll try to do the same. After all, we're not much of a center for our friends and family if we can't even keep our own footing.
That actually brings me to the topic of the moment - staying balanced through life's wars. If you're like I am, you begin to neglect healing activities such as blogging, prayer, working out, checking in with accountability partners, and so forth to take care of people you love when they need support.
I honestly don't remember the last time I stepped foot in my gym, but it was sometime right around the big layoff. My weight loss partner thinks I've died, and I've obviously been neglecting this blog. I have managed to stick with my spiritual journal, but I'm a wreck physically. So, why do we, as moms and wives, do that?
The knee-jerk answer is that we rush to rescue. Part of our DNA (and our spiritual hearts as women) instructs us to nurture, protect and comfort. When the major breadwinner gets a pink slip, maybe we type resumes and prop up their egos. If a son or daughter is failing a class, we help find tutors and listen to them vent.
And all that's okay. What's screwy is letting ourselves fall into disrepair as we glue everyone else back together. Bear with me as I offer an illustration. In Shorin Ryu karate, the practitioner "plants" herself in wide, deep stances so that, no matter now hard an opponent kicks or punches, she's well-centered.
Even if she's defending someone else from an assault, she never forgets to plant herself into those deep, "rooted" stances. She remains like a deeply rooted tree throughout the assault, fending off blows until the fight's over.
Sounds pretty transferable to real life, doesn't it? Why can't we remember to hold our stance when the wars come? Nope, we leap out into space, completely abandoning the habits that keep us healthy, in defense of the people we love. How silly is that?
So, I'm challenging you and myself at the same time. Figure out how to maintain your firm stance when the assault comes. Stick to the things you know will keep you strong, and I'll try to do the same. After all, we're not much of a center for our friends and family if we can't even keep our own footing.
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